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Changing the hidden self-sabotaging pattern
“This is never going to change!”
“This is never going to change!”
“This is never going to change!”
Have you found yourself silently chanting this mantra when it comes to your relationship with food?
I know I have.
Honestly, it would pump through the loudspeakers of my mind. Then, strong spikes of anger and frustration would flood my body. Followed by downpours of guilt and shame.
Anger: “Here we go again!”
Frustration: “Why can’t I just eat normally?!”
Guilt: “Ugh, my stomach hurts.”
Shame: “What is wrong with me?”
Then, “This is never going to change! This is never going to change!”
This internal war raged after every emotional eating episode.
Back then, I wished I had someone to tutor me on how to stop this internal war with myself. It was exhausting, and I was becoming despondent!
I wanted to change this hidden self-sabotaging pattern so I could redirect my energy and reclaim my power.
Today, I’m gonna show you the way, so keep reading!
1 – Over the years of personally healing my relationship with food, I learned that no amount of beating yourself will ever result in changing your behavior.
It’s misdirected energy.
Now, I see this all the time in my professional work. Especially with smart, savvy, successful women like yourself.
You strive for excellence and have very high expectations – the highest when it comes to yourself.
But you can be so mean and downright brutal when you are challenged, make a mistake, or haven’t reached a goal (yet).
How many times have you said, “I’d never say to someone else the things I say to myself.”
Exactly.
2 – It’s time for your inner b*tch to get a promotion.
Because when you become mired in anger, frustration, and self-punishment, you aren’t able to see or receive the help that is often right in front of you.
The dense fog of self-judgment and self-doubt renders you powerless and blind.
3 – So the next time you find yourself thinking, “This is never going to change!” – replace it with: “This hasn’t fully changed yet.”
Because the truth is your entire world is constantly changing.
It’s time to let go of the all-or-nothing mindset and start to embrace a commitment to making small, incremental changes.
When I’m working with my clients, I often tell them that progress is progress, even if it’s 1%.
4 – Be open to receive.
The hardest part for any woman who strives for excellence is being open to receive.
Because it requires you to know and own your value and worthiness.
You’re so used to resisting what you truly need. This may have been supportive at some point decades ago. But now, it’s wreaking havoc on yourself and your health.
So be open to receiving. Let go of trying to do it all by yourself all the time.
You can practice this today by saying: “I am open to receiving all help that is meant to come!”
Then my dear, keep your heart open. Even when your mind continues to do mental gymnastics.
From here, there is much more to the entire freedom from the emotional eating process.
But focus on the 1% today. PRACTICE what I’ve shared here. Let that be enough for now.
Then let me know how it goes.
In service to your freedom,
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