Just wanted to make sure you got your hands on the super valuable tool that I sent you last week.
Click here to access it now – my gift to you!
This simple, yet powerful, practice will guide you to:
✅ Eat with intention and integrity
✅ Reclaim your power around food
✅ Calm and ground yourself no matter what is going on around you
Plus, it’ll give you a sense of my energy. My clients tell me all the time that when our powers combine, they immediately feel better, lighter, and more at peace.
Use this to be in integrity with food today!
My gift to you. 💝
In service to your freedom, 
P.S. Keep me updated on your process with this by replying to this, or any, of my emails. I’d love to hear from you. 🤗 HUGS 🤗
Last week I let you know that behind the scenes I’ve been working on a valuable resource for you… something you can implement immediately, to start changing your relationship with food for the better.
And it is ready for you! Click here now! 💝
Since I know you love to listen to podcasts, I created this in a similar format so you can easily listen on your morning drive or afternoon walk.
In this training, I teach you a simple routine you can incorporate before you eat something.
You will benefit from implementing this… so listen now and then move into action.
Practice this the same way Taylor Swift will tune her guitar before she sits down to work on a new song.
Your body is YOUR instrument, after all. 🎶✨
It’s time to take even better care of it so you can perform at the high level your life and future will demand from you.
So consider this your “tuning” routine before you create beautiful “music” with your life. 🎶✨
Don’t let this sit in your email or worse… don’t let it be another thing you know you should do but never actually put into action.
Experience is your best teacher so click here to listen now, then practice it!
Feel free to keep me up updated on your process with it by replying to this (or any) of my emails. I’d love to hear from you.
ENJOY this!
In service to your freedom,
P.S. This will:
✅ create peace and relaxation
✅ release stress, anxiety, and overwhelm
✅ strengthen your mind-body connection
✅ show you how to tune into your body’s hidden language
✅ optimize the time you are eating so it’s working FOR you
Just wanted to let you know that behind the scenes I’ve been working on a valuable resource for you.
I want to give you valuable tools, something you can implement immediately, to start changing how you’ve been using food to cope.
Yes, there will be more that goes into fully eradicating compulsive patterns with food, but these tools will help you start.
Then, when you’re ready to do the deeper work, I’ll guide you to your next level.
But I want to give you something you can easily implement first.
So stay tuned…
Something special is coming for you!
I aim to have it ready for you by next Sunday’s Support email.
So keep your eye on your inbox!
In service to your freedom,
“You have what it takes.” This was the message a soft-spoken woman spoke into the silence at one of the Quaker Meetings I attended many weeks ago.
At the time, I had no idea what an impact this simple phrase would have on my life in the following weeks.
After the meeting, as I waited on the cold city corner for my bus ride home, I felt this simple message, following me.
“You have what it takes”
It sat next to me on the bus.
It followed me home.
It walked through my front door with me.
It became clear that this phrase and I needed to spend some time together.
The next day, we were full-on flirting with each other.
Following my intuition, I wrote it on a purple post-it and put it on my desk in my office.
Then I made another purple post-it and put it on my bathroom mirror so I’d see it every time I was in there.
For the power of 3, I made another purple post-it and put it on my refrigerator door.
In doing this, I made a clear decision to start playing with it… to start believing it.
Now you might be thinking, “wait a second, Jessica. Don’t you believe this already? I mean just look at your life and everything you’ve created!… freedom from binge eating, a thriving business, a quality and supportive marriage. Isn’t this the air you already breathe?”
I know. Honestly, before I chose to wallpaper my home in purple post-its that say “I have what it takes”, I looked deeply at where, when, and most of all, why I had disconnected from believing in myself.
Why did I believe it sometimes… but not all the time? Especially when I needed it the most?
From that self-inquiry, I saw that my past relationship with “you have what it takes” was conditional. In my reflection, I saw how it was easier to believe when I had accomplished something when the challenge was over.
But when I was in the midst of the hard, completely surrounded by the fog of the unknown, and fantasizing about giving up (or worse, forgetting why I started in the first place)… I could not hear, let alone believe, that I could overcome.
From there, I clearly saw how life-changing it would be for me to believe that I have what it takes no matter what is going on in my world.
So, I chose to change. (After I journaled and cried to my husband, of course.)
The next day, my post-its were there to help me anchor into this new thinking so it could ripple out into a new way of being.
“I have what it takes” was the first thing I saw in the morning.
At night, I would reflect on experiences where having my “I have what it takes mindset” impacted me. I’d record these in my notebook like a mad scientist.
I stayed with these simple practices for days. Then, weeks.
But I felt the results immediately.
My energy doubled.
My body lightened.
I am sleeping better than ever.
I’m more creative.
A lot less cranky.
I’m taking risks every dang day.
There’s a lot less hemming and hawing.
And I’m chipping away at things in all aspects of my life that once felt impossible.
But the best part is the whole new level of peace and happiness I’m feeling daily.
So I’m paying it forward to you because you deserve to feel this good too.
You have what it takes.
If you sense you need to remember this when the going gets tough, write it down.
Play with it. Move into action with it.
Whatever little effort you put into staying connected to it, the payoff will be exponential. I speak from experience.
Because life isn’t getting any easier.
So start believing, and then embodying, that you have what it takes.
I believe in you.
In service to your freedom,
P.S. At one point I made a 4th post-it and put it in one of the most powerful places… my lunchbox. Do not underestimate what goes through your mind as you eat. Just a loving reminder that you can write yourself a lunchbox love note if you choose. You have what it takes. 😉
Did you know that unhealthy patterns with food can be oh-so-sneaky? That’s why I’m sending you this short and sweet self-assessment I designed.
Click on this clip from one of my workshops and let me walk you through a simple process to take a closer look at your relationship with food.
The exercise itself will take less than 5 minutes. After that, keep listening because I’ll explain what your results mean.
Click here now to learn more about yourself and your relationship with food.
In service to your freedom,
P.S. As you walk through this exercise with me, I highly recommend that you let go of any self-judgment and set aside your achiever mentality for a moment. Instead, walk through this process with self-compassion and the desire to learn by being willing to be a student to yourself, to your health, and to your body.
P.P.S. If using food to cope has been an issue for you that you know you need to address, but are scared… let’s talk. It’s my job and life purpose to help women overcome their fear so they can embody their full potential, so click here so we can schedule some time together. Until then, HUGS. XO
“I love my therapist, but…
… therapy doesn’t help much with my eating.”
… therapy still hasn’t specifically tackled this issue.”
… we don’t focus specifically on my eating issues.”
Have you found yourself saying something similar?
Your eating issues need specialized care and focused support.
Back when I was personally struggling with using food to cope, I spent 936 hours in therapy. It never touched my issues with food.
This is why way back in 2011, I committed to helping high-performing women and focusing specifically on overcoming overeating, binge eating, and emotional eating.
You deserve the right kind of care for what you are going through.
✅ Specialized care.
✅ Focused support.
✅ Customized programs.
✅ Specific tools to help you conquer it.
✅ Plus, I bring my personal experience with overcoming overeating and my 13+ years of professional expertise to every connection.
All of this is brought to you here so your issues with food don’t fall through the cracks.
To find out more about the various levels of specialized support I offer specifically designed for high-achievors who use food to cope, schedule a free call to learn more.
Click here, answer a few questions, and you’ll hear directly from me to get scheduled.
Taking the first step to getting the care you need and deserve is so worth it. I’ll be there to hold your hand every step of the way.
In service to your freedom,
When the seasons change, so do I. So, I wanted to share a few personal practices that are bringing me joy, nourishment, and peace in hopes that they will inspire you to find the same.
Here is what is currently bringing me so much joy:
Silence & Friends
Back in September, I felt called to attend a Quaker Meeting for the first time. Ironically, I lived directly across the street from this Meeting House for 4 years without stepping foot inside.
Back then, I was a young woman who wanted to crawl out of her skin every hour of every day. Looking back, I know that IF I had tried back then, sitting in silence for an hour would have felt like running a marathon with no training. (note: I also hate running!)
Ten years later I found myself waking up early on a September Sunday morning (who am I?), returning to my old neighborhood (witnessing how much I’ve changed), and willing to take risks to attend this meeting without knowing much or having any control of the outcome (again, I have changed SO much – LOL).
What started as a “well, let me just try… I wanna see why I feel pulled to go” quickly became into a weekly core practice I prioritize.
Venturing inside I’ve discovered a place, a space, and a community of like-minded people where I am deeply nourishedand fulfilled. It’s hard to put into words what happens when 50-100 people come together and sit in silence. Whatever it is, I’m down for it. Each week, I really look forward to going.
Look how much I’ve changed!
The Very Best Chai
As the weather changes, so do the things I eat and drink. As soon as the weather turns I reach for a dirty oat chai latte instead of my usual cup of green tea (I like it both ways, hot or iced). When my best friend sent me a text that said, “have you tried this? It’s the most authentic Chai in America and it’s SO good.” I did not know my life would be forever changed. For the better.
O. M. G.
Other chai mixes have too much sugar for me or are way too sweet for my taste… and when I’ve sought out other alternatives, they’re just…well…gross.
So I appreciate the freedom Kolkata gives you to sweeten it yourself.
Plus, they use fresh spices instead of syrups – you can really taste the difference!
Friends, call me the Goldilocks of Chai… this one is JUST RIGHT.
(note: it’s also available on amazon if that’s your jam)
Relationship Meetings
Back in the Fall of 2023, my husband Zach and I shared the intention to work on our marriage, specifically our connection. So when the Fall of 2024 rolled around, since I am a coach at the core, I naturally assessed our progress. Well, specifically my part in it.
Honestly, I felt like we could have done better. Specifically, I could have done better. I had more to give. Plus, I wanted to be challenged to grow in this area.
So after many conversations, we put a few pieces in place that would help us do the year ahead differently. One of the things we implemented immediately was a weekly relationship meeting.
This uninterrupted time after dinner on Monday nights (that’s when we both tend to be home consistently) has become a place and space for us to check in each week and assess how we are living up to our relationship vision. (Yes, we have a relationship vision that we created together – this was one of the first things I wanted us to do so we had clarity on what we were aiming for. LOL)
Within the first few weeks of meeting consistently, I felt such a positive shift in our relationship. It’s changed how we show up for each other the rest of the week.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard the marriage advice of “make time for each other” and “communicate!”. With our Monday Relationship Meetings I feel like we’re really doing it and doing it in an even better way that works for us. So, yeah, highly recommend it!
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Thanks for letting me share a little piece of my personal life with you.
I hope you find something inspiring in the changes that are bringing me joy, nourishment, and peace this season.
If you’d like to know more nitty-gritty details about anything I shared here, feel free to reply to this email.
I’m happy to share and support you.
In service to your freedom,
I’m excited to gift you this life-saving tool that several of my clients are using this Holiday Season. It comes directly from the Escape From Emotional Eating Toolbox—my gift to you today! 💝
Keep it, use it, enjoy it!
In the video below, I’ll lead you through a process called Cord-Cutting + Reclaiming Your Inner Warrior.
If you are unsure what that means, here’s some helpful background info…
Much of the stress, anxiety, fear, and judgment that burdens you, isn’t even yours.
For those of us who are deep feelers, like myself and my clients, we absorb other people’s energies, thoughts, beliefs, and emotions… sorta like osmosis.
These connections form invisible cords or energetic lassos.
For example, ever felt “hooked” by someone’s energy?
Or find yourself feeling angry and agitated after spending time with someone who was?
YES! This is what I’m talking about!
In this video, I’ll lead you to release what is not yours.
I truly believe everyone can benefit from this — especially during this time of the year – so press play on the video below and let me help you lighten your load!
In service to your freedom,
P.S. You may be attached to a parent or ancestor. For example, did your mother or grandmother have issues with food, body image, or emotional overwhelm? You may be living a similar pattern. But taking off the cords could restore you to peace or at least your destiny. That way you don’t feel like you have to live out hers. Set yourself free with this tool.
Got a year-end deadline looming that’s triggering your stress eating? I’m here to help you.
For women who strive for excellence, deadlines can be a blessing and a curse.
It’s a blessing because you love to get things done. You thrive on that sense of accomplishment… when it’s all over.
But it’s a living hell day in and day out for the weeks leading up.
The stress.
The overwhelm.
The go-go-go.
The fear.
The anxiety.
The intensity.
The pressure.
The sleepless nights.
The more you try to “just suck it up and push through”, the more food you suck down.
To cope.
To soothe.
To escape.
It’s just not sustainable. Or healthy.
So what’s a high-achieving woman like yourself to do?
Allow me to help.
Let’s start with two important foundational pieces that you need to know:
First: If you want to thrive in this world, using food to cope will only get in your way.
Because using food to cope only makes accomplishing hard things (like tight deadlines) more hard.
Second: In the grand scheme of things, it’s not the deadline that needs to change. Because if it does, a new one will be set and your hell will just start all over again.
What really needs to change is your relationship with the deadline.
For example, when you think of your looming deadline… what is the story you are telling yourself?
Maybe something variation of, “I won’t get this done in time.”
OR
“If I don’t get this done in time, then I’ll…[insert catastrophic consequencethat usually ends in having to live in a cardboard box and beg for food].”
OR
“Can’t you see how hard I’m working?! How do you expect me to get this all done?”
Whatever negative, fear-based, mental hurricane of stories you are telling yourself are expressions from the hidden, vicious little bugs in the software system of your brain.
These mental bugs are the same ones that go FULL-ON-FREAK MODE about what you ate last night or how tight your pants fit. They’re the reason you hate certain pictures of yourself.
In my work with my clients, we identify these inner bugs.
Then, we start peeling their sticky little fingers from the steering wheel of your life. We let them know they are receiving a “job promotion” and they’ll be receiving important training to update the skills and methods they use to support you.
It’s important to remember that your inner bugs have a positive intention for you. They want to keep you alive and successful. But the methods they are using are so outdated. They’re operating like it’s 1904, not 2024.
With methods that are so archaic, they are no longer supporting you… they’re holding you back!
With their consent – they LOVE a new challenge and a promotion – we reassign them to the backseat of the car and strap them in using the safest 5-point harness. That way they are managed and in YOUR control.
Then, I teach and train you on how to sit in the driver’s seat of your life and take the wheel.
With me as your co-pilot, you build inner resources to RISE UP to challenges– whether it’s a tight deadline, a terrible breakup, or working with people who annoy you.
No more breaking down!
From here, you have more focus, creativity, flexibility, and agency to create solutions that work FOR you.
Rather than unconsciously engaging in behaviors that tear you down, like overeating, people-pleasing, and self-silencing.
In your day-to-day life, it’ll feel like time is expanding, deadlines are no big deal, and food is simple…eating when you are hungry and stopping when you are full.
Wanna start working on this process today? Start with the story… when you see/think/feel your deadline… what is the story you are telling yourself?
If you’ve been looking for the right hands-on coach to teach, train, and support your mastery of these skills and more, then click here right now and let’s discover if we’re a fantastic fit to work together.
In service to your freedom (and your biggest achievements),
P.S. Here’s a little story in case you needed to hear it from another high-achiever just like you:
“Before my Escape From Emotional Eating journey I was pushing so hard at work I didn’t realize the impact that it had on me physically and emotionally. I worked 14-18 hour days even though I was completely exhausted. I would mindlessly eat all the time and look down at an empty plate and not even remember eating it. I had trouble sleeping and was on medication for high blood pressure. I also had this “dessert monster” that made me really compulsive with food. When it would take over, I couldn’t stop eating.
I finally decided to Escape From Emotional Eating because I didn’t want to be exhausted and numb for the rest of my life. I wanted to be present with my family. I wanted to be fulfilled, not overly full.
Now, I am no longer an emotional eater! I have been free from overeating for 11 months and counting!
I have a healthy, nourishing relationship with food and my body that feels second nature to me now. With Jessica’s help I’ve learned how to stop overeating, overworking, and overpromising at the cost of myself. Now I have healthy boundaries with food, time, and what I’m willing to take on. I easily say yes to what serves me and a gracious no to what doesn’t, in ALL aspects of my life, not just with food.
I don’t use food to cope anymore… even in intense, stressful, and challenging times! That old “dessert monster” is completely gone! I have healthy habits around rest, rejuvenation, and sleep. I am no longer taking medicine for my blood pressure! I’m more present and available for my loved ones, which means the world to me.
As a single mom, I will always have a lot on my plate. But thanks to Jessica, I now know how to handle it way better than before. ”
– L.P., Georgia
You are on my mind today. With today being the American Holiday of Thanksgiving, I wanted to share a few recommendations on how to create peace with food without changing anything you are eating.
Just like when I work with my clients, let’s focus on the most powerful part of your relationship with food – HOW you eat.
So keep these things in mind…
1). Watch out for scarcity thinking like, “We ONLY have this on Thanksgiving”.
Crazy fear-based thoughts rooted in lack, limitation, scarcity, one-time-only, and “better get it before it’s gone” only fuel unnecessary overconsumption.
Remind yourself of your personal power, agency, and abundance, especially when it comes to food.
If you really wanted your Aunt’s magnificent potato leek soup on a random Tuesday in February, I bet she’d be delighted to make it for you.
Bottom line: There’s no real scarcity when it comes to food. So you don’t need to overeat out of fear today.
2). What looks divinely delicious to you?
Take time to really look at all the prepared food and notice what looks divinely delicious to you.
No need to take one of everything. You are in charge of your body and your plate. Put only what you truly want on it.
Trust me: you won’t hurt anyone’s feelings if you ooh and ah over 1 dish instead of 5 or 6.
Insider Tip: I’ll insert myself to help place dishes on the table, ensuring each has the right serving utensil, exactly for this reason… to have time and space to really look at everything (before there are a million distractions) and discern, “what do I really want?”
3). Remember: Eating together does NOT take the place of beingtogether.
I believe the Holidays are about spending time together and sharing mutual interests. They’re not really about overeating, overdrinking, or overspending.
Focus on what truly matters:
Be present – let yourself really BE there.
Notice – look for the good in each person. Even if it takes more effort with the difficult folks.
Breathe – there’s nowhere to really go and there’s nothing to really do. Simply be and breathe. Your presence is enough.
This will support you in being more connected to yourself, your body, and that little voice within that says “I’m full.”
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These are just a few basic recommendations. But, there is so much more that goes into creating long-term peace with food.
Is your intuition nudging you to work on your underlying issues with food?
–> Click here right now because that’s exactly the work we’ll do together.
You deserve to have peace and freedom in your relationship with food.
I’m here to support you.
In service to your freedom,
P.S. I am so grateful we are connected.
In a world that is overwhelmingly saturated with disempowering modalities that miss the mark when it comes to women and food, I’m glad we’re connected here and doing this unique, real, and sacred work of healing the roots of your relationship with food. 💖
When I think of Thanksgiving, I think of Zach’s Dad (my Father-in-Law). He tragically passed away 2 years ago and the Holidays, especially Thanksgiving, have never felt the same since.
For me, the emotional earthquakes that the Holidays bring, have already started.
[pass the tissues, please]
So here’s what I’m doing about it to avoid any sneaky overeating, binge eating, or emotional eating…
I’m including THIS ⬇️ in Thanksgiving Meal Prep and I invite you to join me in this practice — especially if you have food fear or food anxiety!
This recommendation and practice will be oh-so-easy to skip over. Yet, it’s the very thing you need the most.
You may even think about doing this exercise, but never grab that pen and paper to actually do it. I see you! Don’t be like that!
Give this exercise a whole-hearted try.
Know that I’m doing it right along with you.
In service to your freedom,
P.S. Share the love! Forward this to a friend, family member, or coworker so you can make these tweaks together! No need to go at it alone.
I’ve got another Quick Tip for you – this one is specifically about avoiding overeating at Holiday Events.
Click here to receive this week’s tip:
As a reminder, over the next few weeks every Sunday I’ll be sending you a video with a quick tip to avoid overeating this Holiday Season – my gift to you!
My invitation is that you give my recommendations a whole-hearted try.
I know you are fully capable – you can do this!
Don’t let these tips just live in your head as a “oh, I should do that” or a “maybe I’ll try it”. Most of all, don’t put this off until the New Year.
While the Holidays are a time of intensity, they are RIPE for healing the deeper roots of your relationship with food.
So let’s do this!
Give it a try because your overeating isn’t serving anyone…especially you!
In service to your freedom,
P.S. Share the love! Forward this to a friend, family member, or coworker so you can make these tweaks together! No need to go at it alone.
Ahoy! This is your captain speaking! 👩🏼✈️✨
Consider me your captain of Avoiding Overeating this Holiday Season!
While technically I’m your Captain on avoiding overeating, binge eating, and emotional eating no matter what season it is, I’m excited to share this special gift I have for you!
Over the next few weeks, every Sunday, I’ll be sending you a video with a quick tip to avoid overeating – my gift to you!
My invitation is that you give my recommendations a whole-hearted try.
I know you are fully capable – you can do this!
Don’t let these tips just live in your head as a “oh, I should do that” or a “maybe I’ll try it”. Most of all, don’t put this off until the New Year.
While the Holidays are a time of intensity, they are RIPE for healing the deeper roots of your relationship with food.
So let’s do this!
Click here to receive this week’s tip:
Give it a try because your overeating isn’t serving anyone…especially you!
In service to your freedom,
P.S. Share the love! Forward this to a friend, family member, or coworker so you can make these tweaks together!
P.P.S. All of my recommendations are backed by my personal experience and professional training. I never recommend anything that I haven’t lived, breathed, or walked through myself. Know that everything I’ll be recommending over the next few weeks are guidelines that I personally continue to implement no matter what season it is. And I’ve been making similar recommendations to clients for the past 13 years. So you’ll be getting a little taste of how our little Escape From Emotional Eating world approaches the Holidays in an unconventional way! Join in 🤗
I see you.
You have the career. The home. The life and the things you wanted.
You are a woman who gets it done. You make it all look easy.
On the outside, you keep it all together all the time.
But on the inside…
On the inside….you are falling apart.
No one knows you stay up late squeezing secret snacks into your nighttime silence.
No one knows how crowded your brain space is with more than 50% of your daily thoughts being about food or your body.
No one knows that food has power over you and the real reason you workout so much is to burn off what you ate last night while the kids were sleeping.
You are a smart, successful high-achieving woman. You tell yourself you “should” have this food stuff figured out by now. But you can’t believe you’ve been carrying this secret burden that you use food to cope.
You try to tell yourself food is the glue that helps you keep it all together. But you know in your heart it’s contributing to your demise.
You have enough on your plate. You don’t need this chaotic relationship with food holding you back anymore. It’s impacting everything.
You want peace.
You want to heal the roots of this so you can truly be free.
You want healthy, doable tools to manage and move through difficult thoughts, feelings, and emotions without using food to cope…because the tools you have right now aren’t cutting it.
You want high-level support and an intuitive coach so you can break through your inner glass ceiling.
Above all, you want to perform at a higher level in a healthier way. Because your life isn’t getting any easier. It’s time to learn a better way to manage it.
Click here and apply now.
The Escape From Emotional Eating programs were made for you.
In service to your freedom,
P.S. I see you, because I was you. I know that you tend to wait until you are so bruised, beaten down, even physically broken until you let yourself even consider asking for help. It’s time to release your shame and achiever mentality and simply take the next step by clicking here <— I see you. I was you. I got you. We’re gonna do this together. 💖
Hey,
I have a confession. I have been wrestling with a tremendous amount of FOPO. 😖
FOPO, not fomo. FOPO = the fear of other people’s opinions.
For me, it shows up as the mental hurricane of “oh no, what will so-and-so think of me?”
A swirl of scenarios play out in my mind…
I’ll know exactly what so-and-so will say…
I’ll even feel in my own body how they’ll feel (as if it’s already happened!)…
Then I’ll completely shut down.
A few weeks ago I realized how much FOPO was holding me back from doing many things that I really want to do!
So, I’m following the same next step I encourage my clients to take: I CHOOSE TO CHANGE.
I made a video for you so you can learn from my experience and be inspired by what I’m doing to transform these old roadblocks into hurdles I am committed to jumping.
In service to your freedom,
P.S. As I shared in this video, hard things aren’t so heavy when we do them together. If you’re ready for your relationship with food to transform from a roadblock into a hurdle you learn how to jump, click here to receive support.
Hey,
When I was emotionally eating, I was ignoring a lot of things that needed to be tended to.
That’s the thing about emotional eating…it masks so much.
It masks what you truly need that cannot be found in food.
It masks your truth. It silences your voice.
It leaks your power and your energy to show up authentically in your life.
Emotional eating stunts you from fully living.
Now, I’m not saying that we want to just pull emotional eating or any coping mechanisms right out of your hands.
Instead, to heal emotional eating at the core, you need to upgrade your methods of coping.
You need to upgrade your emotional resilience.
You need to upgrade the tools that you use.
You need to upgrade how you use your voice.
A lot of people will turn to food as a coping mechanism because they don’t know what else to do.
It’s not your fault you weren’t taught a better way.
Remember: it’s never too late to learn something new.
In service to your freedom,
This quote came from the Self-Care Goddess Podcast: Escape Emotional Eating: Why & How Using Food To Cope Is Sabotaging You | Jessica Procini | SCGP: 128, Sep 8, 2024
Click here to listen to the full episode.
Listen to this podcast because you’ll learn something new about your relationship with food.
If you’re short on time, I recommend jumping in around the 11:11 mark.
From there, Rita asks some hard questions like, “Is all emotional eating bad?” and many more.
My answers will shock you and the “a-ha!” moments are abundant throughout this episode so listen now!
In service to your freedom,
P.S. After you listen, I invite you to hit reply on this email and let me know: what was an “a-ha!” you had from this episode?
I’d love to hear from you and my door is always open. Plus, it helps me know what to share more of with you.
Can’t wait to hear from you!
P.P.S. Rita opens the episode with a beautiful centering and grounding exercise. It never ceases to amaze me how a few seconds can shift how we feel in our bodies. I hope you’ll let yourself receive this.
Back when I was an emotional eater, I thought my issues with food had solely to do with food itself. So for years I made valiant attempts to eat super healthy, cook all my meals, portion control, burn calories, etc.
But, my efforts focusing on fitness and nutrition always missed the mark.
Which meant I stayed trapped in the emotional eating cycle for years.
Much longer than I needed to IF I had just known the truth.
If someone had just told me that my issues with food were called compulsions and helped me see that I using food to cope.
If someone had just told me that in order to change I would need to shift my focus to the INNER work…
Well, I would have overcome my emotional eating a lot sooner.
I would have avoided years of investing my time, energy, and resources in mis-matched solutions.
While I can’t go back and re-do the past, I choose today and every day forward, to help other women escape the emotional eating cycle a lot faster and easier than I could.
So I put together this video highlighting a few other misconceptions that our society believes about emotional eating.
As you watch this, I invite you to reflect on these questions:
– Have you heard any of these before?
– Do you, yourself, believe any of them?
– How might these beliefs be enabling your emotional eating?
Watch this with compassion in your heart and curiosity in your mind.
In service to your freedom,
P.S. Beyond food, what other areas of your life are you being guided to let go of the past and choose to do things differently today?
Hey,
Ever said to yourself, “I don’t want anyone finding out I need help”?
I’ve heard this from just about every woman I’ve ever worked with in the last 13+.
I’ve even said this myself. 🙋🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
There was a time in my own food-healing journey that I didn’t want anyone finding out that:
(1) my emotional eating was out of control
and
(2) I really wanted, needed, specialized support.
So I isolated myself…silently drowning in my own ocean of shame.
I worried, “What will other people think of me?!”
At my core, I believed that healing my relationship with food meant I would lose love and respect. That people would see me as weak, broken, crazy, high-maintenance, etc.
My emotional eating destroyed everything it touched – my body, my mind, my work, my finances – I didn’t want it to rupture my relationships too.
Believing the cost and consequences of change were too high paralyzed me for years.
So, I want to share with you a few things I’ve learned from my food-healing journey so you can learn from my experience, just like my clients do.
1. FOPO is real.
FOPO = “Fear Of Other People’s Opinions is a hidden epidemic and may be the single greatest constrictor of human potential,” according to high-performance psychologist Michael Gervais’s research.
In my experience, my desire to fit in, the paralyzing fear of being disliked or being labeled as “other”,
enabled my emotional eating to continue for YEARS.
During that time, I traded my authenticity for other people’s approval.
I wouldn’t raise my hand or take a risk if I couldn’t completely control the outcome.
I pursued power, instead of purpose.
I chased the life that people told me I “should” have, rather than create the life I truly wanted.
As I would scurry around the world trying to please others, I became disconnected and out of touch with my own needs.
I hustled SO HARD for my self-worth. And was always coming up short.
No wonder I was used food to cope.
2. FOPO enables self-silencing. Self-silencing enables emotional eating. To break free, reclaim your voice.
The first thing that changed everything for me in my relationship with food was allowing myself to receive the right support and accountability.
Setting that appointment, showing up to it, and using my voice to honestly share what was going on was scary.
So scary that I attempted to cancel and reschedule 3 different times, because (as I shared above) it felt risky and I couldn’t completely control the outcome.
However, that conversation changed my life.
From that day on I had an ally — someone who saw me for who I really was and what I was really struggling with.
Someone who held my hand, taught me, and guided me to have courageous conversations.
I was finally able to jump the hurdle of, “Oh no, what will they think of me?” and start creating the life I truly wanted.
3. Don’t let the hurdles stop you. Instead, learn to jump them.
When it comes to committing to change your relationship with food, you will encounter many hurdles.
> There will never be a “right time”.
> You will experience FOPO many different times.
> And you will doubt if freedom and peace with food is even possible for you.
But don’t let these things stop you.
When I work with my clients, I teach them how to jump these hurdles.
When your life gets busy, we collaborate on personalized adaptations and evolutions, so they continue their healing journey AND tend to the intensity of life. Not one at the cost of the other.
When you are frozen with FOPO, I teach them how to navigate it.
And every time they doubt themselves, I hold the faith – steady and strong – until they are able to trust themselves again.
My clients call me one part “loving teacher”, one part “tough love” and one part “dear friend”.
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In service to your freedom,
Come behind the scenes of my business in this podcast episode!
Over the days (or years 😉) we’ve been connected, you’ve heard many different versions of my personal story with emotional eating. But today, I’m thrilled to share personal stories, insights, and inspiration from the 13+ years I’ve been self-employed.
- What was my life like before I started my business?
- How did I get my business off the ground?
- What was my business called before it was Escape From Emotional Eating?
- How do I still not resonate with being called an entrepreneur, even after 13+ years in business?
- What does my relationship with being bold, assertive, and going after what I want look like without it coming at a high cost to my health?
The answers to these questions will surprise you – listen here!
I even share personal stories from way back when I was teaching fitness classes full time to how I filled my practice without even having a website, and so much more. 🤭
I’m also delighted to introduce you to my dear friend and fellow entrepreneur, Marrin Costello.
If you like beautiful things, scroll through her gorgeous jewelry line! I personally treated myself to this necklace. These earrings to match are next on my list! I’ve also been eyeing these babies. 😍
Listen while you shop online! hehe!
In service to your freedom,
Hi! Once upon a time, I was addicted to busy-ness.
I wore it like a big gold medal so everyone knew I was the very best at doing all the things…aka binge scheduling.
Binge scheduling looks like:
➤ Being so busy you’ve stopped hydrating because you don’t have time to pee (let alone eat)
➤ Saying yes to everything (especially the stuff you don’t really want to do)
➤ Rarely, if ever, accounting for travel or transition time because in your mind teleporting is real
➤ Chronically showing up late, stressed, scattered, and nervousbut pretending like everything is “just fine”!
Which culminates in this show-stopping bellyflopping grand finale:
Where the end of a busy-stressful day comes… you are so fried, burnt to a crisp, and running on fumes – that eating becomes your “sweet escape”.
Sound familiar? 🙋🏼♀️
This was me.
But not anymore!
Because many years ago, I made a commitment to stop binge eating.
Which meant dismantling all the things that enabled my binge eating.
Therefore, binge scheduling and my hidden addiction to busy-ness had to change.
So today, as September and the swirl of back-to-school swarms in around us, I wanted to share a few things I learned about the correlation between binge eating and binge scheduling.
Let’s dive in!
1 – Back when I was the Queen of Busy-ness, it never occurred to me that I was the creator of my own chaos.
Just like with food, my behavior with my to-dos was compulsive. Compulsive = out of my control / I could not stop.
It was so deeply rooted, so deeply ingrained, that I couldn’t see the forest from the trees. I couldn’t see how I was contributing to my own demise.
It wasn’t until I got help from someone outside of myself that I realized, “oh my gosh. I’m doing the same thing I do with food in sooo many areas of my life.”
Actually…it was more like, “wait. you mean I made this sh*tshow? I’m contributing to the problem?!”
🤦🏼♀️
2 – Another thing I learned along the way was that my busy-ness, just like my overeating, was a coping strategy. Both had high costs to my health and my integrity.
The go-go-go, do-do-do, more-more-more of life AND food put a buffer between myself, my awareness, and my feelings.
Both patterns kept me out of touch with what I truly knew and felt.
The more I ate and the more I pushed through my to-do list, the more I kept denying my intuition and inner guidance.
Over time, it kept me in a perpetual state of deferring my needs, hopes, and dreams.
3 – The big kicker was how deeply tied this all was to my self-worth and identity.
On some deep internal level back then, I believed if I did it all, I’d be seen as good enough. Worthy. Like I’ll be “doing life right”.
Which fueled the addictive patterns of overeating, overworking, and over responsibility.
So the pattern continued until I made a conscious choice and commitment to change it. And let myself have a teacher, a mentor, a coach who could teach me new skills.
Looking back, I feel so much compassion for the old version of me who was just trying to do her best (at the time) with what she had back then.
And I’m SO grateful I no longer binge eat. Because of that I no longer binge schedule, either.
I’m grateful I’ve come to learn a different way: where I know, own, and honor my unique boundaries with food, my energy, my schedule, and my responsibilities.
Where I’m deeply rooted in my connection with myself and will slay anything that tries to interfere (productivity culture be damned!).
I’m grateful I’ve learned to make time for what truly matters to me, to what aligns with my values, and with what will move the needle towards my goals.
I’m proud that I’ve gotten good at saying “I’m full” – with food, work, and life – and not being afraid of those healthy boundaries.
And sometimes I still can’t believe I’ve had the honor of passing these lessons along to my clients, and people like you, for the last 13 years.
I hope something in my story inspires you or helps you connect some of the deeper dots in your own unhealthy compulsive patterns.
When you need help changing them, click here.
🤗
In service to your freedom,
Right before I eat something – doesn’t matter what it is – I do this thing. I created it for myself at a time where I couldn’t get through a meal without overeating… where food was my safety blanket, the only way I’d survive… and when peace and freedom felt like genes I wasn’t born with.
It’s a simple yet powerful practice… a ritual of sorts… that I grew into. Over the years, I’ve taught it to my clients.
Now today, I am passing it to you to help you grow into a healthier relationship with food, your body, and yourself.
It’s called the Escape From Emotional Eating Blessing.✨
Before you eat, pause. Take a deep breath. Focus your energy, attention, and intention by saying this:
I bless this food and allow it to nourish me.
I eat in peace trusting my body already knows what to do.
I give thanks and affirm I am healthy, happy, and free.
Then, notice what changes in your body, mind, and soul.
Implement this!
Here are a few tips:
I recommend starting with a doable amount of time (like 1-2 weeks) and commit to using it consistently (1-3x a day). If you forget or miss a day, just pick right back up with it again. This is about practice and play – not perfectionism!
Use is to honor the part of you who wants to believe and embody these statements. The more you play with it, the more you will grow into it too.
If you are a visual learner like me, write this blessing on a post-it note or index card and leave it where you will “bump into it” as you go to eat something. Like your kitchen table, counter, or tuck it in your lunch bag you bring to work. That way when you see it, you’ll use it and you don’t have to remember.
Move this into action and feel free to let me know how it goes (just reply to this email at any time)!
In service to your freedom,
P.S. If you’re rolling your eyes and thinking, “I’ll need more than three little lines to change how deeply embedded my unhealthy relationship with food is.”
You’re not wrong. There is a lot more that goes into fully repairing your relationship with food. If you’re the type of person who likes to be all in, click here so we can pin this down by the ears and go at it. 😁
In the meantime, don’t underestimate the power of this blessing. Use it. Notice what changes. It’s a valuable baby step in alignment with your ultimate goals.
Jessica Procini is on a mission helping women who strive for excellence heal the roots of their emotional eating so they can embody their full potential.
Learn more about her unique approach here!
Did you know there are 4 Roots that trigger Emotional Eating?
Watch this video to identify which one is triggering you!
