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Hey,

Ever said to yourself, “I don’t want anyone finding out I need help”?

I’ve heard this from just about every woman I’ve ever worked with in the last 13+. 

I’ve even said this myself. 🙋🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

There was a time in my own food-healing journey that I didn’t want anyone finding out that:

(1) my emotional eating was out of control 

and 

(2) I really wanted, needed, specialized support. 

So I isolated myself…silently drowning in my own ocean of shame.

I worried, “What will other people think of me?!”

At my core, I believed that healing my relationship with food meant I would lose love and respect. That people would see me as weak, broken, crazy, high-maintenance, etc. 

My emotional eating destroyed everything it touched – my body, my mind, my work, my finances – I didn’t want it to rupture my relationships too. 

Believing the cost and consequences of change were too high paralyzed me for years. 

So, I want to share with you a few things I’ve learned from my food-healing journey so you can learn from my experience, just like my clients do. 

1. FOPO is real. 

FOPO = “Fear Of Other People’s Opinions is a hidden epidemic and may be the single greatest constrictor of human potential,” according to high-performance psychologist Michael Gervais’s research. 

In my experience, my desire to fit in, the paralyzing fear of being disliked or being labeled as “other”,
enabled my emotional eating to continue for YEARS. 

During that time, I traded my authenticity for other people’s approval. 

I wouldn’t raise my hand or take a risk if I couldn’t completely control the outcome. 

I pursued power, instead of purpose. 

I chased the life that people told me I “should” have, rather than create the life I truly wanted. 

As I would scurry around the world trying to please others, I became disconnected and out of touch with my own needs. 

I hustled SO HARD for my self-worth. And was always coming up short. 

No wonder I was used food to cope. 

2. FOPO enables self-silencing. Self-silencing enables emotional eating. To break free, reclaim your voice. 

The first thing that changed everything for me in my relationship with food was allowing myself to receive the right support and accountability. 

Setting that appointment, showing up to it, and using my voice to honestly share what was going on was scary. 

So scary that I attempted to cancel and reschedule 3 different times, because (as I shared above) it felt risky and I couldn’t completely control the outcome. 

However, that conversation changed my life.

From that day on I had an ally — someone who saw me for who I really was and what I was really struggling with. 

Someone who held my hand, taught me, and guided me to have courageous conversations. 

I was finally able to jump the hurdle of, “Oh no, what will they think of me?” and start creating the life I truly wanted. 

3. Don’t let the hurdles stop you. Instead, learn to jump them. 

When it comes to committing to change your relationship with food, you will encounter many hurdles. 

      > There will never be a “right time”. 

      > You will experience FOPO many different times. 

      > And you will doubt if freedom and peace with food is even possible for you.

But don’t let these things stop you. 

When I work with my clients, I teach them how to jump these hurdles. 

When your life gets busy, we collaborate on personalized adaptations and evolutions, so they continue their healing journey AND tend to the intensity of life. Not one at the cost of the other. 

When you are frozen with FOPO, I teach them how to navigate it. 

And every time they doubt themselves, I hold the faith – steady and strong – until they are able to trust themselves again. 

My clients call me one part “loving teacher”, one part “tough love” and one part “dear friend”. 

Support + Accountability + Confidant 

Receive these key ingredients by clicking here right now. 

In service to your freedom,

Come behind the scenes of my business in this podcast episode! 

Over the days (or years 😉) we’ve been connected, you’ve heard many different versions of my personal story with emotional eating. But today, I’m thrilled to share personal stories, insights, and inspiration from the 13+ years I’ve been self-employed. 

• What was my life like before I started my business? 
• How did I get my business off the ground? 
• What was my business called before it was Escape From Emotional Eating? 
• How do I still not resonate with being called an entrepreneur, even after 13+ years in business?
• What does my relationship with being bold, assertive, and going after what I want look like without it coming at a high cost to my health? 

The answers to these questions will surprise you – listen here! 

I even share personal stories from way back when I was teaching fitness classes full time to how I filled my practice without even having a website, and so much more. 🤭

I’m also delighted to introduce you to my dear friend and fellow entrepreneur, Marrin Costello.

If you like beautiful things, scroll through her gorgeous jewelry line! I personally treated myself to this necklace. These earrings to match are next on my list! I’ve also been eyeing these babies. 😍

Listen while you shop online! hehe! 

In service to your freedom, 

Hi! Once upon a time, I was addicted to busy-ness. 

I wore it like a big gold medal so everyone knew I was the very best at doing all the things…aka binge scheduling. 

Binge scheduling looks like: 

➤ Being so busy you’ve stopped hydrating because you don’t have time to pee (let alone eat) 

➤ Saying yes to everything (especially the stuff you don’t really want to do) 

➤ Rarely, if ever, accounting for travel or transition time because in your mind teleporting is real 

➤ Chronically showing up late, stressed, scattered, and nervousbut pretending like everything is “just fine”!

Which culminates in this show-stopping bellyflopping grand finale: 

Where the end of a busy-stressful day comes… you are so fried, burnt to a crisp, and running on fumes – that eating becomes your “sweet escape”. 

Sound familiar? 🙋🏼‍♀️

This was me. 

But not anymore! 

Because many years ago, I made a commitment to stop binge eating. 

Which meant dismantling all the things that enabled my binge eating. 

Therefore, binge scheduling and my hidden addiction to busy-ness had to change. 

So today, as September and the swirl of back-to-school swarms in around us, I wanted to share a few things I learned about the correlation between binge eating and binge scheduling. 

Let’s dive in! 

1 – Back when I was the Queen of Busy-ness, it never occurred to me that I was the creator of my own chaos.

Just like with food, my behavior with my to-dos was compulsive. Compulsive = out of my control / I could not stop. 

It was so deeply rooted, so deeply ingrained, that I couldn’t see the forest from the trees. I couldn’t see how I was contributing to my own demise.

It wasn’t until I got help from someone outside of myself that I realized, “oh my gosh. I’m doing the same thing I do with food in sooo many areas of my life.”

Actually…it was more like, “wait. you mean I made this sh*tshow? I’m contributing to the problem?!”

🤦🏼‍♀️

2 – Another thing I learned along the way was that my busy-ness, just like my overeating, was a coping strategy. Both had high costs to my health and my integrity. 

The go-go-go, do-do-do, more-more-more of life AND food put a buffer between myself, my awareness, and my feelings. 

Both patterns kept me out of touch with what I truly knew and felt. 

The more I ate and the more I pushed through my to-do list, the more I kept denying my intuition and inner guidance. 

Over time, it kept me in a perpetual state of deferring my needs, hopes, and dreams. 

3 – The big kicker was how deeply tied this all was to my self-worth and identity. 

On some deep internal level back then, I believed if I did it all, I’d be seen as good enough. Worthy. Like I’ll be “doing life right”.

Which fueled the addictive patterns of overeating, overworking, and over responsibility.

So the pattern continued until I made a conscious choice and commitment to change it. And let myself have a teacher, a mentor, a coach who could teach me new skills. 

Looking back, I feel so much compassion for the old version of me who was just trying to do her best (at the time) with what she had back then. 

And I’m SO grateful I no longer binge eat. Because of that I no longer binge schedule, either. 

I’m grateful I’ve come to learn a different way: where I know, own, and honor my unique boundaries with food, my energy, my schedule, and my responsibilities. 

Where I’m deeply rooted in my connection with myself and will slay anything that tries to interfere (productivity culture be damned!).

I’m grateful I’ve learned to make time for what truly matters to me, to what aligns with my values, and with what will move the needle towards my goals. 

I’m proud that I’ve gotten good at saying “I’m full” – with food, work, and life – and not being afraid of those healthy boundaries. 

And sometimes I still can’t believe I’ve had the honor of passing these lessons along to my clients, and people like you, for the last 13 years. 

I hope something in my story inspires you or helps you connect some of the deeper dots in your own unhealthy compulsive patterns. 

When you need help changing them, click here.

🤗

In service to your freedom, 

Right before I eat something – doesn’t matter what it is – I do this thing. I created it for myself at a time where I couldn’t get through a meal without overeating… where food was my safety blanket, the only way I’d survive… and when peace and freedom felt like genes I wasn’t born with.

It’s a simple yet powerful practice… a ritual of sorts… that I grew into. Over the years, I’ve taught it to my clients. 

Now today, I am passing it to you to help you grow into a healthier relationship with food, your body, and yourself.

It’s called the Escape From Emotional Eating Blessing.✨

Before you eat, pause. Take a deep breath. Focus your energy, attention, and intention by saying this:

    I bless this food and allow it to nourish me.

     I eat in peace trusting my body already knows what to do.

     I give thanks and affirm I am healthy, happy, and free.

Then, notice what changes in your body, mind, and soul.

Implement this!

Here are a few tips:

I recommend starting with a doable amount of time (like 1-2 weeks) and commit to using it consistently (1-3x a day). If you forget or miss a day, just pick right back up with it again. This is about practice and play – not perfectionism!

Use is to honor the part of you who wants to believe and embody these statements. The more you play with it, the more you will grow into it too.

If you are a visual learner like me, write this blessing on a post-it note or index card and leave it where you will “bump into it” as you go to eat something. Like your kitchen table, counter, or tuck it in your lunch bag you bring to work. That way when you see it, you’ll use it and you don’t have to remember.

Move this into action and feel free to let me know how it goes (just reply to this email at any time)!

In service to your freedom,

P.S. If you’re rolling your eyes and thinking, “I’ll need more than three little lines to change how deeply embedded my unhealthy relationship with food is.”

You’re not wrong. There is a lot more that goes into fully repairing your relationship with food. If you’re the type of person who likes to be all in, click here so we can pin this down by the ears and go at it. 😁

In the meantime, don’t underestimate the power of this blessing. Use it. Notice what changes. It’s a valuable baby step in alignment with your ultimate goals.

Hey!

Earlier this week I was noodling on ways I could be of even greater service and support to you so today I wanted to invite you to ask me anything! 

Perhaps you’ve been noodling on something related to emotional eating, binge eating, or overeating… 

Or wonder how you can consistently strive to perform at your best, especially during stressful intense situations… 

Or maybe you’ve been curious about how I drink my coffee? Or if I even drink coffee? 🤔

Send me your question(s)! 

No question is too big or too small, too hairy or unwieldy. 

I’m here to help! 🤗

Hit reply to this email and let me know what you’ve been noodling on.

I’ll personally respond directly to you! 

In service to your freedom, 

P.S. For those who are wondering… I DO drink coffee. I prefer La Colombe’s Cold Brew (medium roast) black. I love drinking it out of my favorite cup (picture below) because it brings me so. much. joy. In the morning I’ll fill her up to her eyebrows because anything more than that leaves my sensitive body over-caffeinated and overstimulated. So her eyebrows are the sweet spot of “just enough” for me. Does your favorite coffee cup have earrings too? 😂



P.P.S. Women who strive for excellence often struggle when it comes to asking for help or allowing help. So take this opportunity to turn that struggle into a new superpower by taking advantage of this opportunity to ask me anything. I look forward to seeing you in my inbox! 

Many high-performing women cannot see that they are the architect of their own suffering. So today as your coach I’m going to highlight, pull apart, and lay out this hidden trap so you can break free from this self-sabotaging cycle.

It starts as soon as you have the awareness that your emotional eating is holding you back.

If you’re really honest, you’ve been wrestling with your relationship with food for years – exhausted from being at war with yourself.

Just as you start to consider the possibility of receiving support to make a change, your mind fills with all sorts of fears, doubts, and various scenarios of “what ifs”. 😵‍💫

As a high-achiever you trap yourself when you say something like:

“I don’t think I’m ready. I need more time to prove to myself I can really do this before I commit to a program.”

Sound familiar?

This twisted thought pattern is another version of, “I need to lose 20 pounds before I get a gym membership.”

No no no, you silly goose! In this example, getting the gym membership comes FIRST. It’s the first step, a physical demonstration of your personal choice and commitment to lose weight. The weight loss then comes AFTER the gym membership.

Same thing with emotional eating. You enroll in one of the Escape From Emotional Eating Programs FIRST. Then the peace and freedom from food that you desire is what we create together on the weeks and months to come.

🌟 Now here’s something really important to keep in mind: ⤵️

True freedom from emotional eating is an extinction process.

This is the approach I take with all of my clients where over time, as we are working together, your emotional eating episodes become less intense. Then they pop up less often. Until, weeks and months go by where you haven’t emotionally eaten.

If you or ANY other person or method is expecting an immediate release of any past compulsive behavior,
without addressing the deep roots and dismantling compulsive behaviors at the core – it’s a massive red flag. 🚩 You will only rubber band back.

Instead, an extinction process approach allows change to occur over time. On a psychological level, this creates safety for the client. Which results in long-term sustainability.

If change happens too quick and too fast, psychologically you will feel overwhelmed and unsafe. Then rubber-banding back quickly follows.

We see this a lot in weight loss (I’m simply using it as an example here again).
Where someone loses a lot of weight very fast. Only to gain it all back plus more. On a psychological level, they freaked themselves out.

That’s why the psychology of change needs to be supported and inner safety needs to be established in order for the new behavior and change to be sustainable. 

Now you know what I mean when I say the Escape From Emotional Eating Programs are not a quick fix. Instead, your emotional eating will follow an extinction process.

So if you’ve been putting any pressure on yourself to be ready to stop emotionally eating on day 1 – no no no, you silly goose! Don’t do that to yourself! 

1️⃣ Set yourself up with the right support FIRST. Click here to discover which level of Escape From Emotional Eating support is the right fit for you.

2️⃣ THEN work towards your emotional eating, overeating, or binge eating becoming extinct, which we’ll do together.

Don’t sabotage yourself by trying to do it the other way around.

In service to your freedom, 

Have you ever asked yourself, “WHY am I overeating?”

and, “How can I break apart this big mess?”

THEN THIS IS FOR YOU! ⤵️

Last week I shared a NEW and SPECIAL OPPORTUNITY to work together in a QUICKIE way! 

It’s called The Peeling Back The Layers Of The Emotional Eating Cycle Training Package and there is ONLY 1 SPOT LEFT! 

Click here NOW to make it yours! 

In this quickie training package WITH PRIVATE SUPPORT from ME 🤗 you will: 

🌟 Move beyond seeing your compulsive experiences as the enemy by learning how to be curious rather than controlling. No more wasting your precious energy trying to dominate them! 

🌟 Give yourself compassionate attention by revealing the hidden layers and valuable lessons of your emotional eating cycles. 

🌟 Take back your power so food no longer has power over you! 

🌟 Create integrity and trust in your relationship with food, your body, and yourself! 

CLICK HERE TO PURCHASE NOW – ONLY 1 SPOT LEFT! 

In this Training Package You’ll Receive: 

Peeling Back The Layers Training Video
In this 48-minute training video, Jessica will guide you through this eye-opening and transformational process of Peeling Back The Layers Of The Emotional Eating Cycle so you can reclaim your power. 

Peeling Back The Layers Training Booklet
This organized workbook includes a special note from Jessica, your prep assignment, a diagram of the layers of the emotional eating cycle and a transformation-in-action worksheet that you will complete during the training video. All of this was designed to support you in receiving the most out of this training!

Peeling Back The Layers Training Transcript
Making the training accessible to everyone’s unique learning style, you’ll receive a word for word transcription of the training video. Many of Jessica’s clients like to use this resource to efficiently scan, highlight and reference any specific phrases or sections. 

🌟🌟🌟🌟 THE BEST PART 🌟🌟🌟🌟: 
You’ll receive a 💖 PRIVATE SESSION with Jessica 💖 to implement this all further! In your private hour-long session with Jessica, you’ll receive her loving support and expertise to deepen your learning, answer ANY questions, and accelerate your transformation. 

PLUS, you’ll receive a recording of your private session to add to your library of training materials. 

CLICK HERE TO PURCHASE NOW! – ONLY 1 SPOT LEFT! 

If you’ve been feeling like your regular sessions with your therapist aren’t getting to the deeper layers of your issues with food then THIS IS FOR YOU! 

LET’S DO THIS! 

I look forward to supporting you in this extraordinary way! 

In service to your freedom, 

P.S. Here’s what the reviews are saying: 

🌟 “I am so grateful for this support to get to the root, my core issues, with food!” – Susie K. 

🌟 “This work has transformed my relationship with myself! I am free!” – Christine C. 

🌟 “I’m no longer afraid to look within.” – Jamie H. 

🌟 “Jessica is a masterful coach! She empowers me!” – Nikki B. 

🌟 “I no longer feel magnetized to food!” – Stephanie D. 

🌟 “I am listening to and trusting myself more.” – Carly H. 

🌟 “I have new perspectives and tools to help reclaim my body.” – Liz S. 

Click here – Let’s do this!