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I used to have this thing with granola. A seemingly healthy food…but when I would eat it I would go through an entire bag in a matter of seconds. 

It wasn’t until my hand hit the bottom of the bag that I would “wake up” from my food trance wondering what alien creature had taken over my body and “who ate all my food?”

No matter what I ate – healthy or unhealthy – I always felt crazy and compulsive around food. Food ran my life. It was a secret I kept for over 20 years of my life. 

I tried to talk to my friends about how my overeating was out of control. They simply said, “Oh Jessica, don’t worry. Everyone does that!” Then we’d sign up for a spin class to work off what I overate the night before. It was a valiant effort to make me feel better. But it only made things worse.

I tried to talk to my partner about it. He’d tell me, “Oh, Jessica. I’ll love you no matter what size you are.” What a lovely response. But what boggled my mind was how could he love me when all I wanted to do was crawl out of my own skin. 

I tried to seek help in therapy. I spent over 932 hours in therapy and it never touched my relationship with food. Many of the therapists I saw just wanted to put me on some type of medication. Another quick fix.

I was already using food to numb myself. I didn’t want to be numb anymore. 

At that point, I had binged ate my way through nutrition school and had become burned out from teaching too many fitness classes on the side. 

It became clear to me that no matter how healthy I ate, how much nutritional information I knew, or how much I worked out, these things weren’t getting to the root of why I was so out of control with food. 

My last resort was Overeaters Anonymous. But, I could never get myself to go to a meeting. It just didn’t resonate with me.

I wanted answers. I wanted tools. Most of all, I wanted to change. Food was interfering with the life I wanted to live, the woman I wanted to be. 

But when it came to support that was a right fit for me, that got to the roots, it didn’t exist. 

I remember standing alone in my kitchen one cold December day. I had just finished stuffing myself with food till I was numb. I did this so often that that numbing feeling felt so comfortable, so familiar. 

I started to feel like there was something wrong with me. Like I was missing the “peace with food” gene or something.

Scared and alone, I honestly asked myself, “Am I going to have to live with this crazy compulsive relationship with food for the rest of my life?” 

It was then that I saw a flash of what my life would look like if it did. 

I saw that the more responsibilities that piled on my plate, the more I would turn to food. 

I saw myself getting married and having kids and secretly eating in the corner of the kitchen after everyone went to sleep. 

Most of all, I saw myself hallow and numb…a shell of a human…just going through the motions and shoving everything down with food. 

This was NOT the life I wanted to live. 

I knew I was meant to be more and do more in this life. 

I knew I had a purpose, a mission. 

I knew I was made for more. 

I know these same things are true for you too. 

But my crazy compulsive relationship with food took up so much of my time, energy, and brain space. I knew if I wanted to fulfill my life’s mission, I had to get this food thing under control. 

Food HAD to stop interfering with my life. 

That’s when I dedicated myself to investigating every single nook and cranny of my relationship with food. It was then that I started to look at all aspects – the physical, the mental, the emotional, and the spiritual. 

The results from my research shocked me. 

Here were my 3 big discoveries: 

First, I discovered that simply focusing on fitness and nutrition, like I had been, was not going to heal my relationship with food. Because my freedom didn’t live in what I was eating. My freedom was at the root of WHY I was eating. I had to get to the root. 

Second, I discovered that my eating behaviors were tangled up with my mind, emotions, beliefs, and past experiences. I knew I had to untangle them so food could be fuel again, a nourishing asset to my life. 

Finally, from over a decade of my deep dedicated research, I discovered patterns. Patterns in my emotional eating behavior. These patterns are what I now call The 4 Roots of Emotional Eating™. I knew that I had to weed out these patterns, these roots, in order to fully be free. 

And that’s exactly what I did. 

Now, it’s been 5 years since I last emotionally ate. 

I no longer feel crazy and compulsive around food. 

I eat when I’m hungry. I stop when I’m full. 

My relationship with food is simple.

Food is a nourishing asset, not a self-destructive one.

I know how to manage my stress, anxiety, and overwhelm. I have created tools that work way better than numbing myself with food, ever did.  

Food no longer interferes with the life I want to live. 

I am free. 

All of this is what has led me to the creation of Escape From Emotional Eating, my transformational year-long programs and retreats, and giving various talks and workshops around the world. 

Those 3 big discoveries, that focusing on nutrition and fitness won’t set us free, that we have to untangle our relationship with food and then heal the roots of our emotional eating, these are at the core of what I now teach and how I work with my clients. 

My personal experience and willingness to share so openly about that + my research is what makes my work so different than any other support out there. It’s also why my work is so effective. 

If anything I shared here in my story resonates with you, let’s talk. Click here to apply for a complimentary conversation with me where we’ll explore which of the Escape From Emotional Eating Programs is a fit for you. 

Your relationship with food is holding you back. It’s time we set you free

Today I want to share a juicy clip from a talk I gave last week. In it, you’ll learn about ‘eating dictators’ and how to start reclaiming your power with food. 

A few weeks ago I received the honored invitation to speak to, my dear friend and colleague, Amanda Kuda in her Unbottled Potential Group. She asked me to speak about how to listen more deeply to yourself. This clip is from that virtual workshop. 

Watch this now:

In service to your freedom,

PS. Know a woman’s group or organization looking for a dynamic speaker (like me!)? Just reply to this message and let me know! XO

When I was a sophomore in college I had a roommate that made my life a living hell. Let’s call her Alexis. 

I was constantly attacked by her openly hateful comments. 

She even made simple things, like brushing my teeth, impossible by hiding my toothbrush…only after it took a swim in the toilet. 

I never knew someone could be so mean. 

It was hell. 

Now, I’m getting ready to lead my 13th retreat with my clients, called The ESCAPE, where we’ll be focusing on the Root Of Emotional Eating™: Self-loathing. 

While this one will be virtual, due to COVID, the work we do together and why we come together is still the same. 

To me, self-loathing feels like living with Alexis. 

From my decade of research in the psychology of emotional eating, I discovered that self-loathing is the most common root that triggers emotional eating. It keeps you locked into cycles of guilt and shame, with your compulsions with food growing like weeds.  

This makes simple things impossible, like getting dressed in the morning or deciding what to eat.  

If left unhealed, self-loathing will rob you of achieving your full potential.  

This is why on the ESCAPE, we’ll be focusing on transforming this by releasing past experiences that are currently embedded in your cells, transforming your limiting beliefs, and learning to love yourself. 

And I’m not talking about fluffy bullshit self-love. I’m talking about fundamental re-wiring through a get-it-in-your-cells-experience. Something that happens when we come together on our ESCAPE retreats, regardless if it’s in-person or virtual. 

Even if you won’t be joining us on the ESCAPE next weekend, we can still work together to release your inner Alexis. Click here right now to apply so we can connect and explore which of the Escape From Emotional Eating Programs is a fit for you.

Once you apply my team will reach out to get you scheduled so we can connect right after the ESCAPE is over next week.

I look forward to helping you heal the roots of your emotional eating! 

In service to your freedom,

P.S. Afraid that if you aren’t so hard on yourself you’ll just become lazy? Yeah, well, when you are no longer living with that constant critic blathering inside your head or driving you to emotionally eat, you become powerful beyond measure. We can talk about this more when we connect — apply here now.

This short clip will show you exactly what is possible when your relationship with food stops interfering with the life you want to live. It’s from a recent podcast interview on Rachel Radio. It’s short but inspiring. 

Click here to listen now!

In service to your freedom,

P.S. Ready for your relationship with food to stop interfering with the life you want to live? YES! Then click here to apply now so we can connect and explore which of the Escape From Emotional Eating Programs is a fit for you.

Your eating behaviors are driven by your mindset, emotions, beliefs, and past experiences. 

In order to truly heal your relationship with food (where you are using food as a nourishing asset rather than a self-destructive one) we have to untangle your mind, emotions, beliefs, and past experiences from food. 

This process of untangling is at the core of our work together in Escape From Emotional Eating. It’s what makes my work different than the other kinds of support out there. It’s what I love doing so much! 

Focusing on fitness and nutrition isn’t enough to truly heal your relationship with food because your mind, emotions, beliefs, and past experiences will still interfere. Leaving you still “hooked” on food. 

In our work together, we start this untangling process by teasing apart your emotional hunger from your physical hunger. 

So you can eat when you are hungry and stop when you are full. And so you can meet your emotional needs too like how to comfort, soothe, and relax without eating till you’re numb. 

When your mind, emotions, beliefs, and past experiences stop interfering with your relationship with food, your relationship with food stops interfering with the life you want to live. 

It’s how true freedom and peace occur, <<First Name>>.

Ready for your relationship with food to stop interfering with the life you want to live?  Then click here right now and let’s talk.

It’s time to set you free. 

In service to your freedom,

Here’s the honest truth: Your peloton won’t heal your emotional eating. Neither will another go at Weight Watchers or a try at intermittent fasting. 

Because these methods are a complete mismatch for you. They don’t address the roots, the core issues, of your emotional eating.

This is everything my work here at Escape From Emotional Eating is all about – healing your Roots Of Emotional Eating™! 

When the roots of your emotional eating are not addressed, you fall into the emotional eating cycle of insanity. You know that constant cycle of falling off track > overeating > feeling guilty > overeating because you feel guilty… and then the cycle starts all over again, wasting your precious time, energy, and life! 

However, since I introduced my clients to my specific teachings about the 4 Roots Of Emotional Eating and the pathways to freedom, (which I founded from over 10 years of deep dedicated research), I’ve seen a massive acceleration in their healing.

Here’s what a few of my clients have celebrated recently:

     I haven’t emotionally eaten in a full year!
     – LP from Hiram, GA

     I haven’t emotionally eaten in 20 months!
     – SD from Lubbock, TX

     I can’t remember the last time I’ve emotionally eaten it’s been so long! 
     – LB from Malibu, CA

And it gets better! Each of these clients have experienced some pretty big challenges at work, in their relationships, and personal life recently. Because of our work together and the tools that I teach, they have been able to navigate these challenges with a level of peace and ease that doesn’t come from numbing out with food. 

All of this has me so excited that I want to share the deep healing work I do with as many people as possible!

Time to be honest again…Do you really want to heal your emotional eating?

YES! Then we have some important work to do! 

I have just a few spots open to connect for an Escape From Emotional Eating Discovery Session to explore which of my life-changing programs is a fit for you! 

In an Escape From Emotional Eating Discovery Session, I’ll listen intimately to what your challenges are with emotional eating, we’ll get clear on why you haven’t found freedom just yet, and we’ll explore your best next steps on your healing journey. This session is private, virtual, and complimentary – my gift to you! 

To receive your Escape From Emotional Eating Discovery Session: 

1. Fill out this application now. (It should only take 5 minutes)
2. Submit your application as soon as possible because I only have a few spots for these sessionsand I want to make sure you’re finding peace with food as soon as possible.
3. I’ll read every application and you’ll be hearing from myself or a member of my team to schedule our connection. 

APPLY NOW. 

You’ve suffered enough already. 

Let’s end your fight with food together. 

In service to your freedom,

P.S. I’ve found that the women I work with tend to procrastinate. You put things off that are actually good for you and then you don’t do them at all. I only have a few spots open for Discovery Sessions, so if you’re feeling called to heal your emotional eating, APPLY NOW.

Are you exhausted? Yeah, me too. This year has been a doozy. 

As I get ready to take some time off from work for my end of year rest, reflection, and rejuvenation time, I’m reminded of how much my relationship with rest has changed over the years. In the same way my relationship with food and my body has.

I used to resist rest. I feared the quiet. As an emotional eater, “being still” felt impossible. 

As I looked deeper at my resistance to rest, I realized that at the root of it was fear. 

I was afraid that if I really rested, that I would find this lurking emptiness, a terrible aching void. Even worse, I’d have to feel the sheer enormity of my exhaustion. 

I feared that if I really rested, I’d never get up off the couch again. 

So I’d fill my calendar with tasks, projects, errands, things to get done…to fill the time and empty space. (This is what I now call “binge scheduling”)

The more I did and the faster I did it, the better. 

And just like I’d fill my calendar, I’d fill my body. With food. So I didn’t have to feel. 

But here’s what I now know: 

Busy-ness and emotional eating are defense mechanisms. They both create a false sense of safety, a sense of “control”. But in truth keep us emotionally starved.

Now, I no longer fear rest, the quiet, or space in my calendar. 

I know that if I don’t rest, and I just keep on going, going, going, I become clogged. Energetically and emotionally constipated, which creates a deep disconnect with myself, where I’m so numb that I can’t tell if I’m tired or I’m hungry. 

And then I get angry. And resentful. And can torch a small village if anyone crosses my path. 

I know that in the quiet stillness of rest, creation happens. New ideas get birthed, love and kindness deepen, and my intuition sharpens. 

So I’ve learned to stop fighting rest and instead, treasure it, and create space for it. I’ve learned when to say “enough is enough”. 

And when I feel fear start to creep back in, I simply say to myself “I trust that the important tasks of my life will resurface when I plug back into the world. Nothing will be lost. I give myself permission to take this time for myself.”

Feel free to use this mantra yourself, if you find yourself addicted to busy-ness, resisting rest or fearful of the quiet.

And know that true safety and peace is available to you (no matter what is going on in your world) if you’re simply willing to pause and rest. Even if it’s just for a minute. 

In service to your freedom,

P.S. I’ll be taking some time off to rest and rejuvenate over the Holidays but I’ll be back in the New Year! In the meantime, you can find resources here, and interviews here to continue to break free from emotional eating!

After another emotional eating episode, how many times have you said to yourself “why does this keep happening?!” 

But you aren’t able to really get to the root of why…even though you know you should eat when you’re hungry and stop when you’re full…you’re frustrated that you just can’t do that consistently. 

Having been an emotional eater myself, I wasted years of my life in that shame-rage cycle of “why does this keep happening”. 

Ultimately what I discovered is: what you resist persists. 

You’ve been trying to control your compulsions with food through nutrition and fitness but it’s not really working. Because your emotional eating is still happening. And if you’re really honest, it’s been gradually getting worse. 

That’s because you haven’t accessed the Roots Of Your Emotional Eating. You haven’t gotten to the core of whats really going on. 

Leaving your compulsions with food to grow like weeds. 

Because what you resist persists. 

But when we heal the roots, which is what I’m so passionate about and is a core part of my work with my clients in all of my Escape From Emotional Eating programs, long lasting freedom and peace with food occurs. 

The 4 Roots of Emotional Eating are the answer to your question of “why does this keep happening?!”. I founded these Roots from over a decade of research and identifying patterns in my overeating episodes as well as those of hundreds of woman I’ve worked with. 

It’s how I can declare that I’ve been free from emotional eating for 5 years and counting. It’s how many of my clients are reaching major milestones of their own being free 2, 12, and 20 months and counting.

Because we’ve done the work to weed out our compulsions and heal the roots. 

Ready to take the first step in healing your Roots of Emotional Eating? 

Then I highly recommend taking the 4 Roots of Emotional Eating Clarity Quiz which will help you identify which of the 4 Roots of Emotional Eating is driving your overeating. 

You’ll also receive access to The Beginners Guide which will give you step-by-step instructions and multiple tools so you can start your own healing work in healing your roots. 

You can purchase the quiz and beginners guide right here. 

The Quiz & Guide are a great first step and they will create a shift in your relationship with food. Which is everything I desire for you. 

Access the quiz and guide here.

And remember, what you resist persists. 

In service to your freedom,

Somewhere along the way you got your mental wires crossed when it comes to food. 

You thought you needed it to cope or connect with others…a reward at the end of a long stressful day.

You thought using it to numb your stress, anxiety and exhaustion was the only way to survive and thrive in this overwhelming world.

But here’s the truth…

If you want to thrive in this world, using food to cope will only get in your way. 

You don’t need food to connect with others. 

The best rewards come without guilt or shame or bloating from overeating.

Surviving and thriving in this world can only truly happen when you aren’t carrying the burden of your emotional eating.

There are so many wires to uncross when it comes to food.

So much to unlearn.

Which is why I created Escape From Emotional Eating. 

A place for high-achieving women like you to have a safe space to learn how to uncross your wires when it comes to food. 

To learn how to use food as a nourishing asset, rather than a method of self-sabotage and self-destruction. 

Escape From Emotional Eating has become a sacred home for people like you who don’t resonate with Overeaters Anonymous, who don’t fit the typical stereotype of an emotional eater, and have been searching for a place to learn how to truly have a peaceful relationship with food, mind, body, and soul.

Because of that, I am so grateful we are connected <<First Name>>. 

Healing happens here. 

And I am committed to supporting you, every step of the way, on this very important journey.

In service to your freedom,

The American Holiday of Thanksgiving is coming up and I wanted to share a few recommendations on how to create peace with food on this holiday. 
 

1). Treat Thanksgiving like any other meal.  
 

Crazy fear-based thoughts like “I’ll never eat this again” only fuel overeating and the emotional eating cycle. 
 

You know that if you really wanted that pumpkin pie cheesecake you could easily go to the store and get one yourself. Or call up your Aunt Karen on a random day to make you one. (I bet she’d be delighted!) 
 

Bottom line: You will eat again. Food is everywhere.   
 

2). Bless your food and allow it to nourish you. 
 

This will help you remember that eating is a sacred experience and should be treated as such.
 

3). Eat in peace, trusting your body already knows what to do.
 

Yes, your body <<First Name>>, already knows what to do. It’s your mind that loves to interfere. Today is a great day to start practicing trusting your body. Remember, you are literally a walking miracle. 
 

❤️
 

The recommendations I shared with you here are just a few of the same ones I share with all of my clients. 
 

Emotional eating is a learned behavior that must be unlearned.  
 

Finally, I am so grateful to be connected with you. 
 

In a world that is overwhelmingly saturated with superficial diet culture, I’m glad we’re connected here and doing the sacred work of healing the roots of your emotional eating together.


In service to your freedom,

PS. If you haven’t taken advantage of my dear friend Maria’s amazing interview series called Food Freedom, you can still access it here. She’s interviewing over 20 experts (myself included!) on how to heal your complicated relationship with food and body. Enjoy!